I never thought I wanted a daughter. I could barely manage my own feminine feelings, how was I expected to be responsible for another's?! The drama, the attitude, the rise and fall of emotions...it all seemed too much. But when it was confirmed that my third child was to be a girl, something shifted. My heart became lighter and my head became clearer. Her small being in my body made me feel empowered. There was an unspoken alliance between the two of us. Like we had known each other for an eternity. The unspeakable life challenges that I faced during my pregnancy somehow were made okay by her existence. She was a fire burning in my root chakra, a constant reminder of the ever glowing light inside. She entered this world with a force, the most painful and intense (yet the quickest) of all my births. Because her very survival depended solely on me, I was forced to rise from the shatters of my broken marriage and piece myself back together. And who better to teach me how but a perfect mini goddess, unscathed by the woes of life.

We raised each other, her and I. She would cry, I would cry. She would laugh, I would laugh. I grew just by watching her grow. She taught me that as a woman, sometimes we are crazy and just need to work it out for ourselves. I can remember the time she had her first big tantrum. My boys were so flustered, making futile attempts to stop her fit; bringing her things, first trying to console her, then yelling at her in anger. (Their interaction with her was almost more interesting to watch). Eventually, I told them to simply let her be. That she just needed to move her emotions. Of course the boys struggled with this, wanting desperately for it to end. But once they conceded to the fact that there was nothing they could do but wait it out, it ended. It was a lesson for us all to learn. Give space, and it will pass.

A woman in her most feminine essence will always ebb and flow. Like the moon, it is our gift. Our job now, as we move into the Age of Aquarius, is to help men understand and embrace this beauty. This is not a teachable task. It is one learned through living. And loving. Be true to your feminine nature. Strong yet supple. Revel in your craziness! Know that the only consistent thing in your mind will be inconsistency. Then laugh about it! Surround yourself with people who will honor you. People who will treat you with reverence. Expect the best. Would you want anything less for your own daughter? It is more than well deserved  For we are the creators. Remember that.

SHE IS THE CREATOR

There's a tradition that Muhammed said,

"A wise man will listen and be led a woman, while an ignorant man will not."

Someone too fiercely drawn by Animal urges, lacks kindness and the gentle affections that keep men human.

Anger and sharp desiring are animal qualities.

A loving tenderness towards women shows someone no longer pulled along by wanting.

The core of the feminine comes directly as a ray of sun.  Not the earthly figure you hear about in love songs; there's more to her mystery than that.

You might say she's not from the manifest world at all, but the creator of it.

-Rumi